10 Strategies for Coping with Difficult Emotions

You can find here some useful strategies for coping with strong, negative emotions when they arise, and also suggestions for maintaining inner calm so that when difficult feelings do appear, they are less challenging to sit with and can be used appropriately in guiding us towards that which may need to be addressed.


Emotions

Emotions are a vital part of what makes us human; they are our guides and motivators and are essential in helping us navigate the world. They tell us what we do and don’t like and what we need. Sometimes, however, they can be powerful and overwhelming. Here are ten ways to cope with, and manage, intense feelings: [Read more…]

Ways to Relax in Tough Times

Does anyone in the room right now feel a little stressed? Stress is the key factor that leads to the development of nerves, overload, or anxiety. A short guest author post for your consideration.


As the majority of the world remains quarantined today, I am writing this while confined to my home. I don’t know what else to call it if this isn’t a period of increased tension and anxiety. I keep my family in my house without knowing what the future holds because I care about the wellbeing of my neighbourhood. Being unable to control my movements and daily activities, as well as being inundated with sickness and uncertainties. So, here are some helpful tips to reduce anxiety:

1. Self-Awareness

Realizing oneself as a unique personality or entity is what is meant by self-awareness. I like to see self-awareness as a goddess or ghost that is sort of floating outside of my body and is able to view my existence from a different angle. You can maintain a more level-headed view of our circumstances when you can distance yourself from the irrational notions that constantly race through your mind. Watching oneself, so to speak, “jump into the trenches” as opposed to actually jumping into the trenches with your thoughts, is very different.

I have a fresh sense of objectivity when I visualize myself as a goddess hovering outside of my body and observing my existence. Here, objectivity is crucial. Being more objective enables us to think more clearly and extricate ourselves from a flood of unproductive feelings like anxiety, tension, and sadness.

The capacity to examine oneself and evaluate one’s ideas, emotions, and behaviour is known as self-awareness. There may or may not be alignment in these three areas of your life. We go out of harmony when we dive deeply into our worries and concerns.

The capacity to control your emotions and make decisions that are consistent with your ideals comes with self-awareness.

2. Breathe

Breathing quickly and shallowly is a common symptom of anxiety and anger. According to Dehorty, this communicates with your brain and creates a positive feedback loop that reinforces your fight-or-flight reaction. Because of this, taking several slow, deep breaths can break the cycle and promote relaxation.

To calm down, try one of the many breathing exercises available. Three-part breathing is one. You must inhale deeply and then fully exhale while paying close attention to your body when practicing three-part breathing.

3. Acknowledge Your Anxiety

Embrace the ability to express your anger or anxiety. The worry and anger you’re feeling might lessen after you give them names and give yourself permission to express them.

4. Meditate

Although I’m not an expert at meditation, I have given it a shot and have found it to be a potent stress-relieving method. Personally, I find the Headspace app to be a great tool for meditation. I enjoy having some direction from the mobile app as I’m just starting out with meditation. Though there are many free materials available as well, I’m now focusing on the commercial services that the app offers.

Additionally, there is a vast universe of meditation to explore. In the more conventional sense, I imagine meditation to involve finding a peaceful, comfortable place to sit, relaxing my body, closing my eyes, and attempting to quiet my mind of its constant chatter.

The goal of meditation is to calm the mind and bring your thoughts and awareness of the current moment. Being mindful of your thoughts as they go through your brain is more important than trying to stop them from occurring.

I’m starting to see that there are many different ways we can do this. I now make an effort to see various daily routines as chances to practice mindfulness and express gratitude. For example, I might go gardening, follow a morning or evening routine, stroll around the block, water my houseplants, stretch, paint, make crafts, or perform some yoga positions.

Try meditation to help you relax during stressful moments; there are so many other approaches besides the standard one!

5. Shift your attention

Move away from the scenario, turn your head in another direction, leave the room, or go outside.

To give you time to make smarter decisions, Dehorty advises doing this practice. “When we are stressed or angry, we focus primarily on how to survive. This is acceptable if our lives are truly in danger, but if not, we want to use our best judgment rather than our natural instincts for survival,” he continues.

6. Relax

Your entire body may seem tense when you’re anxious or irritated. Progressive muscle relaxation exercises might assist you in calming down and finding your core.

Lay on the ground and spread your arms at your sides to perform this. Make sure your hands are not fisted and your feet are not crossed. Begin by telling yourself to release your toes. As you slowly ascend your body, tell yourself to let go of each body part until you reach your head.

Conclusion

Even though dealing with anxiety can seem like an uphill struggle on some days, developing effective coping mechanisms requires learning what to avoid.

Breaking the cycle that anxiety can cause by avoiding triggers, withdrawing from people, hiding your discomfort, and abstaining from vices will be helpful.

Healthy coping techniques can be taught to you by a counsellor so that anxiety will no longer dominate your life but will instead become a symptom you deal with.

Remember that many people are experience nervousness, which is entirely normal. Gaining control over your anxiety or letting it have a detrimental impact on your life depends on learning appropriate coping mechanisms.

Anxiety… Not today, thank you!

In this powerful piece, we shine a light on the origins of anxiety, highlights ways in which anxiety can manifest and offers suggestions on how symptoms can be managed.


Now, more than ever, anxiety is making its stomach-churning self known. In these times of such uncertainty, it has latched onto our fear receptors and is making even those with the strongest of constitutions struggle with its message of impending doom. So, what can be done? How can we manage something that makes us feel, at times, so helpless and afraid? [Read more…]

5 Ways to Deal with Body Image Issues

Many a time we assume body image issues affect only the young due to peer pressure and media pressure but this isn’t necessarily so. Whatever our age, we can benefit from these quick tips by Rebecca Brown who is an avid traveller who has had the amazing opportunity to travel to dozens of countries around the world, showcasing her experiences on Rough Draft.


In a recent Mission Australia Youth survey, 33% of respondents listed body image as a personal concern. Body image is shaped by a wide variety of factors. Some of those factors, like genetics, we cannot change.

But, Instagram posts with ultra-toned bodies are some triggers we can go without. You may be tempted to delete your social media profiles, but don’t let the pesky entertainment industry beat you. Here are a few quick tips that will help you appreciate how awesome you are! [Read more…]

How to Deal with a Toxic Work Environment

Do you dread Monday morning? Will you be thinking about work this weekend instead of enjoying it with family or friends? Do you hate your job or is there something more to it? This wonderful infographic guides us through identifying if we are affected by a toxic workplace and some of the things we can do to alleviate the issues we may facing.

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Stop selling! I wish to decide for myself.

An interesting piece by Tim, our resident guest writer taking a look at NLP.


I seem to be tripping over folk in Psychology Today at the moment. I blame Bob, because he’s highlighting articles that are worthy of our attention through his Twitter account. He showed me this piece, How To Deal With Nerves Before A Presentation and I almost like it.

“Will you never stop criticising?” I hear you yell at me!

And the answer is that I will, but in my own time. It’s just like your decision to read this piece. I’m just a smidgen critical this time, though, not angry. [Read more…]

Dealing with the Symptoms of PTSD

Other than using the Rewind Technique, which I have found to be the kindest treatment for dealing with symptoms associated with traumatic events, there are many other treatments and activities which can help alleviate the symptoms a sufferer is experiencing. Here, Robert Johnson guides us briefly through what PTSD is and some of the options available to those living with the symptoms of Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Complex-PTSD (cPTSD).


As we know, life consists of ups and downs which we overcome daily. When we think about any type of mental disorder, just think of the ‘many more’ ups and downs that those people need to deal with. For PTSD, the battle with fear and anxiety is a long one and can last the whole day. It can also continue through the night when the reliving of the events is frequent. In order to understand PTSD, it is important to have it defined before proceeding. [Read more…]

How Dogs Can Help Improve Our Mental Health

From the time spent with Arthur, our rescue Lurcher, I know only too well the joy and benefits that owning a dog can have. Our guest, Will, here shares some of the benefits having a four-legged friend can have with regard to our mental health which is based upon his excellent 12-part article written for Dog Owner.


Mental health issues can affect anyone – it doesn’t matter who you are or what you do for a living. It can be hard to talk about our mental health with those closest to us, and the fear of being judged or labelled as something we are not (lazy, entitled, high strung) is often enough to deter us from fully sharing the way we feel. However, many of us have our dogs, or the option to visit one.

 

They offer the love, a listening ear when we need it and can benefit a myriad of mental health issues.

 

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Overcoming Flying Anxiety: A Quick Guide

Despite us knowing that flying is the safest way to travel, we still see a rise in numbers of those who experience some form of anxiety when flying or even thinking about flying! More than a quarter of Americans get anxious and over here in the UK reports vary between 1 in 10 and 1 in 3! Whatever the numbers may be, this anxiety can limit our life experiences and hinder us when wanting to live life to the full.

 

Over 21 million Brits are now more scared of flying compared to 10 years ago, new research has revealed, with engine failure the biggest fear factor. The study showed that people in the UK now take an average of three flights every year. – Mail Online

 

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Cats

As someone who’s been owned by both cats and dogs, it’s a joy to share this wonderful infographic provided by Catological reminding us of the many benefits cats bestow upon us. It has also taken me back in time to past family members, Chloe and Puss.

I can recall only too fondly, Chloe, our black cat of nearly two decades, and Puss, a rescue that was with us for less time than deserved. Despite Chloe being part of our family much longer than Puss, both have left indelible and beautiful memories, or paw prints, on our lives.

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