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Anxiety: What Lies Behind (Part 2)

by Bob Brotchie

In this second post on what may cause us to experience anxiety, we explore ‘self-concept’; how it is formed and why, if incomplete, it can cause stress and unhelpful thinking styles, that can lead to anxiety.

Self-Concept

Our self-concept can be simply defined as a fairly comprehensive, general idea of who we are – what we know about ourselves from a physical world perspective. Our interests, what we do and don’t like, what we’re good at, where we might need to improve and our strengths and weaknesses. When it’s complete and accurate, it guides us to make decisions that work best for us. [Read more…]

The Anatomy of Anger and How to Manage This and Other Emotions

by Bob Brotchie

Anger is an emotion that can have a place in our lives. Anger, can keep us safe – as well as create regret and harm! For some of us, anger visits daily – even hourly. So, when we find anger has moved in and unpacked, how can we over time, manage and reduce the triggers?.

Why do we feel anger?

There are many beliefs which may trigger anger in us, and most are subconsciously driven by the ‘emotional brain’: [Read more…]

Emotional Neglect: The Hidden Parenting Problem

by Bob Brotchie

The majority of clients I work with are adults suffering emotional turbulence associated with anxiety and low self-esteem, often inherited as a direct result of parenting styles. When we think of the ’emotional neglect’ of our children, we may envisage a rundown home, drugs, violence, or abuse – and while these may well be causal factors for many, others will come from what might be observed as “good homes, normal parents”. Our guest author, Helen Weir, covers The Hidden Parenting Problem.

 

The Stable Home

‘Tom’ was brought up in a stable home; his parents stayed together, they fed him, clothed him, took him to the doctor when he was ill. They helped him with his homework, they bought him presents at Christmas, they never abused him in any way. Yet, as an adult, he feels that there’s something intrinsically missing from his life. [Read more…]