Finding Peace – Mindfulness

This wonderful introduction to mindfulness is by guest author Ashley Davis Bush, LCSW who is a psychotherapist and author of Shortcuts to Inner Peace. 


It’s tempting to think that you need the tropical beach, the hammock by the lake, the walk in the woods, the yoga retreat or the special meditation cushion in order to feel the “ahhhhh” of inner peace. We all have certain props or places that we use to jump start that special sensation of anchored contentment. [Read more…]

Are You Skipping Your Zzzs?

Here is how sleep affects fitness… Health professionals report that chronic insomnia and other sleep disorders are associated with increased sedentary activity. Less sleep can shorten your workouts by time and effort over two weeks.

Restorative sleep has the opposite impact of disrupted sleep, which can lead to increased daily weariness and physical lethargy. A good night’s sleep makes for a more energized and productive day, and you may have seen this effect after a particularly restful sleep cycle. [Read more…]

Ways to Relax in Tough Times

Does anyone in the room right now feel a little stressed? Stress is the key factor that leads to the development of nerves, overload, or anxiety. A short guest author post for your consideration.


As the majority of the world remains quarantined today, I am writing this while confined to my home. I don’t know what else to call it if this isn’t a period of increased tension and anxiety. I keep my family in my house without knowing what the future holds because I care about the wellbeing of my neighbourhood. Being unable to control my movements and daily activities, as well as being inundated with sickness and uncertainties. So, here are some helpful tips to reduce anxiety:

1. Self-Awareness

Realizing oneself as a unique personality or entity is what is meant by self-awareness. I like to see self-awareness as a goddess or ghost that is sort of floating outside of my body and is able to view my existence from a different angle. You can maintain a more level-headed view of our circumstances when you can distance yourself from the irrational notions that constantly race through your mind. Watching oneself, so to speak, “jump into the trenches” as opposed to actually jumping into the trenches with your thoughts, is very different.

I have a fresh sense of objectivity when I visualize myself as a goddess hovering outside of my body and observing my existence. Here, objectivity is crucial. Being more objective enables us to think more clearly and extricate ourselves from a flood of unproductive feelings like anxiety, tension, and sadness.

The capacity to examine oneself and evaluate one’s ideas, emotions, and behaviour is known as self-awareness. There may or may not be alignment in these three areas of your life. We go out of harmony when we dive deeply into our worries and concerns.

The capacity to control your emotions and make decisions that are consistent with your ideals comes with self-awareness.

2. Breathe

Breathing quickly and shallowly is a common symptom of anxiety and anger. According to Dehorty, this communicates with your brain and creates a positive feedback loop that reinforces your fight-or-flight reaction. Because of this, taking several slow, deep breaths can break the cycle and promote relaxation.

To calm down, try one of the many breathing exercises available. Three-part breathing is one. You must inhale deeply and then fully exhale while paying close attention to your body when practicing three-part breathing.

3. Acknowledge Your Anxiety

Embrace the ability to express your anger or anxiety. The worry and anger you’re feeling might lessen after you give them names and give yourself permission to express them.

4. Meditate

Although I’m not an expert at meditation, I have given it a shot and have found it to be a potent stress-relieving method. Personally, I find the Headspace app to be a great tool for meditation. I enjoy having some direction from the mobile app as I’m just starting out with meditation. Though there are many free materials available as well, I’m now focusing on the commercial services that the app offers.

Additionally, there is a vast universe of meditation to explore. In the more conventional sense, I imagine meditation to involve finding a peaceful, comfortable place to sit, relaxing my body, closing my eyes, and attempting to quiet my mind of its constant chatter.

The goal of meditation is to calm the mind and bring your thoughts and awareness of the current moment. Being mindful of your thoughts as they go through your brain is more important than trying to stop them from occurring.

I’m starting to see that there are many different ways we can do this. I now make an effort to see various daily routines as chances to practice mindfulness and express gratitude. For example, I might go gardening, follow a morning or evening routine, stroll around the block, water my houseplants, stretch, paint, make crafts, or perform some yoga positions.

Try meditation to help you relax during stressful moments; there are so many other approaches besides the standard one!

5. Shift your attention

Move away from the scenario, turn your head in another direction, leave the room, or go outside.

To give you time to make smarter decisions, Dehorty advises doing this practice. “When we are stressed or angry, we focus primarily on how to survive. This is acceptable if our lives are truly in danger, but if not, we want to use our best judgment rather than our natural instincts for survival,” he continues.

6. Relax

Your entire body may seem tense when you’re anxious or irritated. Progressive muscle relaxation exercises might assist you in calming down and finding your core.

Lay on the ground and spread your arms at your sides to perform this. Make sure your hands are not fisted and your feet are not crossed. Begin by telling yourself to release your toes. As you slowly ascend your body, tell yourself to let go of each body part until you reach your head.

Conclusion

Even though dealing with anxiety can seem like an uphill struggle on some days, developing effective coping mechanisms requires learning what to avoid.

Breaking the cycle that anxiety can cause by avoiding triggers, withdrawing from people, hiding your discomfort, and abstaining from vices will be helpful.

Healthy coping techniques can be taught to you by a counsellor so that anxiety will no longer dominate your life but will instead become a symptom you deal with.

Remember that many people are experience nervousness, which is entirely normal. Gaining control over your anxiety or letting it have a detrimental impact on your life depends on learning appropriate coping mechanisms.

10 Tips for Dealing with a Narcissistic Personality

This guest post, sponsored by An Epic Series of Failures Series some very interesting information around NPD.


The term “narcissist” typically refers to someone who is both self-absorbed and emotionally distant. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a serious mental illness after all, and should be diagnosed by a trained mental health professional.

Some narcissistic traits can be displayed without the presence of NPD. A few examples of them are:

  • being in continual need of adulation
  • using other people for your own benefit
  • lack of awareness or consideration for the needs of others

[Read more…]

Childhood Emotional Neglect: Is it time to reclaim your ‘self’?

Here we look into childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and the experiences we may have and how to identify if it’s time to reclaim ourselves.


Receiving the message, in childhood, that your feelings don’t matter (in whichever way this message was relayed), can lead to an adulthood of being unable to connect with your ‘self’, others and the world around you. When our emotional experiences are dismissed, ignored or simply not encouraged during childhood, we intuitively shelve this important part of ourselves. We wall off our feelings, stop believing in them, stop listening to them and, in losing our connection with them, we lose belief in ourselves. [Read more…]

10 Steps to Help Recover from PTSD

There is a growing recognition of PTSD thanks in part to an increase of knowledge and efforts to de-stigmatise mental health challenges. If you are struggling with heightened emotions, and behaviours you regret, do source support from a local therapist who is skilled at The Rewind Technique or Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR). It is important to note, PTSD is not amenable to talking therapy alone. And how long since your trauma was experienced is unimportant as long as it is around or more than 6-weeks! [Read more…]

How to Unwind After a Long and Stressful Day at Work

We thank our guest Kurtis Wilcox for sharing these great tips with us.


Restoring energy inspires a more positive outlook on life, which is no fun for those who are over-worked and suffering from constant stress. This article will help provide easy, gentle, and effective ways to relax and recharge after work for better sleep, brighter mornings and a bigger smile. [Read more…]

Healthy Lifestyle Changes to Adopt Going into Our 30’s

Tracie Johnson here shares some quick tips on some lifestyle changes that can benefit us as we head into our thirties.


By the age of 30, we all start feeling some of the natural effects of aging. Aging is not something we’re able to avoid, but we can minimize its impact. Healthy lifestyle choices lessen the side effects normally associated with age. Let’s take a look at five ways we can start living healthier now:

1. Sprinkling Activity Throughout Our Day

Most of us work rather sedentary jobs, hardly getting up during the day. Every once in a while, we’ve got to move our body around. Otherwise, our bodies begin to stiffen, making movement painful. Try getting up once an hour to walk around the office. Remote workers could simply take a walk through their neighbourhood. Just a few minutes of activity can help to negate muscle loss. [Read more…]

What to Do If You Are a Highly Sensitive Person

With gratitude to our guest author, Pol Cousineau, from CPA (Quebec) and Soul Success Unleashed who discusses HSP.


Many individuals experience a range of emotions daily. Maybe you’ve asked yourself, Am I being too sensitive? Or how do I become less sensitive? 

It is human nature for some people to experience a high intensity of feelings regarding their situations or the experiences of others. But just like how tall a person is, there’s no right amount of sensitivity. Highly sensitive people are no worse off or better than any other individual, they just look at life from a different perspective. [Read more…]